Opening Up IS LIKE Going on a Road Trip

With greater acceptance for more than monogamous people and designer relationships more and more people are looking for ways to explore themselves, their sexuality and their relationships. Despite what you may hear from people in various non-monogamous communities or from family and friends, it is possible to explore ethical non-monogamy in a way that feels exciting and empowering while still keeping you and your partner(s) safe and secure. Take a look at the video below and be sure to explore some of the resources at the bottom.


Poly Pitfalls-

5 Mistakes Couples Make When "Trying" Polyamory by Shannon Ashley for Medium

Are You in Poly Hell? Common Pitfalls in Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola

Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy by Lola Phoenix for Medium

Best Laid Plans by Kurt Braunohler with Ira Glass for This American Life

You've Heard of Polyamory, but What About Ambiamory? by Page Turner


Surfing the New Relationship Energy Wave-

We've All Been There: Common NRE Mistakes by Jesse Dagger for Polyamory For Us

New Relationship Energy: What It Is & How to Deal With It by Elisabeth Sheff for Psychology Today

Using New Relationship Energy (NRE) to Open Up rather than Close Down by MEG-JOHN BARKER for Rewriting the Rules

New Relationship Energy NRE (podcast) from Meg-John ad Justin

Brains Do It: Lust, Attraction, and Attachment by Helen E. Fisher from The Dana Foundation

The Rise and Inevitable Fall of New Relationship Energy by Nan J. Wise for Psychology Today


Resources specific to Gay Men-

30% of Gay Men Are in Open Relationships, According to New Study by Matt Baume for Them

Why do so many gay couples open up their relationships? by Michael Radkowsky for Washington Blade

GAY MEN IN OPEN RELATIONSHIPS: WHAT WORKS? from Gay Therapy Center

Podcast #66: Dan Savage on Monogamy by Tracy O'Neill, LIBRARY TALKS PODCAST

The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage by Michael Dale Kimmel




Non-Monogamy Resources-

Multiamory R.A.D.A.R. - A communication tool developed by the Multiamory Podcast Team

Fetlife.com - A way to join your local kink community

Polyfriendly.org - A list of psychotherapists and other non-monogamy informed professionals

Kimchi Cuddles- A collection of all to releatable non-monogamy comics by Tikva Wolf

PolyCocktails- A national collection of poly meet-up groups (must be logged into facebook to use link)

Secular Sexuality- My weekly YouTube talk show about the intersection of sexuality and religious trauma