Fetlife is to kinksters like the office coffee maker is to the caffeinated- everyone uses it, no one is particularly impressed with it and a small vocal minority have incredibly strong opinions about it’s proper usage and etiquette. John ‘Baku’ Kopanas’ problem child of a passion project remains the best available platform for pervy people to meet and mingle despite the Myspace interface. Social media coordinator and certified kinkster Tanjil Wright joins Nate and I this week in understanding the etiquette of direct messaging and dungeon mastering at the intersection of social media and kink. Catch all that plus your calls below and be sure to check back afterwards for some footNOTES!
An Introduction to FetLife by Amelia Cane for Medium
What is Fetlife? Everything you need to know about the kinky social network by Sofia Gallarate for Screenshot Media
Curious About Joining Fetlife? Take My Hand and Let Me Guide You by Ena Dahl for Medium
How Kink's Largest Social-Networking Site Fails Its Users by David Z. Morris for The Atlantic
The Internet's Largest Kink Community Isn't Going To Moderate Itself (2019) by Laura Yan for digg
He Developed A Devoted BDSM Following Online. Then He Was Accused Of Rape. by Jordan Michael Smith for Huffington Post