Where is my fat bisexual alien goblin king?

Few things make the internet’s collective butthole pucker up with rage more then the idea of fat people… I dunno, existing, let alone having a gender or sexuality of any sort. I’d tell you to check the comments section if you don’t believe me, but no one needs that in their life. Instead, with the help of writer and enby historian Dianna E. Anderson, let’s build a more gender inclusive, fat liberated world.

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Meet Doll Master Ricky

One of our very first ever calls on Secular Sexuality involved a newly opened ‘sex doll brothel’ and a therapist turned podcaster in way over his head. Now years later I’m thrilled to finally dive deep into the soft silicone world of love dolls and human like sex toys. The ethics, the thrills and the sheer ‘why’ness of it all should be an excellent conversation thanks to this week’s guest Doll Master Ricky. Catch the conversation below at 7p CT 9/29 and be sure to check back here afterwards for some footNOTES!

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Big Beautiful World

Eve Was Framed

Sex education seems like one of those fields where it’s all fun and games until you have to explain to someone why their favorite TV show is actually sexist AF. And yes, we like to have a good time, I swear we don’t do this on purpose, but unfortunately, a lot of things in life really are secretly sexist. So we invited a sanity saving social media siren to our secular podcast on sexuality to suss out the shameful and the silly in our unsceptically scrupulous society and hopefully to make a slightly better world. Catch the conversation between Christy and Eve Was Framed as we explore the day to day patriarchy of ‘Man Cave’s and more, plus what’s turning us on this week on SecX!

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On A Date with Phoebe Rose

There are so many taboos and so much malice in the way cis people interact with trans people that it can feel like we’re wholly different species. As part of SecX’s continuing mission to normalize and connect us with a wide variety of sex, body and gender positivity Phoebe Rose returns to the show to discuss her and other’s experience of life and love in a trans body.

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Mastering Masturbation

Over the past few years SecX has spent so much time debunking the myths of masturbation causing blindness and ED and everything else that we may not have taken the time to discuss why we should pretty much all make like educated fleas and do it. This week Sex Coach Shannon Burton joins Kara and I for a conversation about <insert every locker room euphemism ever stated out loud here> and of course your calls and questions.

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The Philosophy of the MPAA

What if I told you that the shame you feel when a condom commercial interrupts the game you were watching with your parents was the result of a shadowy cabal of mysterious industry insiders? Not from the contraceptive industry or the NFL, from religion or even the ‘Big Family Therapy’ lobby, but from the Motion Picture Association of America, a mystifyingly cryptic relic of post war moral panic. This small and secretive organization with a long and difficult to measure reach is the topic of my conversation with Laura Magee and Josh Enter

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Marriage After Faith

Sex is hard enough to talk about in our society without having to actively unlearn decades worth of hokey religions and ancient bullshit. To talk about sex in a marriage founded on a hokey religion while actively working to re-learn and re-construct your sex life- jedi level. This week ExXtian Erin joins Nate and in a conversation about what it’s like to do just that, while doing our best to pass on a few mind tricks and further your training.

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Gender Purity

From seatbelts to power chords there’s an underlying assumption in our society that male goes into female JUST LIKE NATURE INTENDED. We tend to ignore the bees and the bonobos and everyother good goddamn creature under the sun by believing that two complimentary things must go together IN ACCORDANCE WITH GOD’S WILL. Now that we’ve injected a little science to our thinking, what are we left to do with these supposed ideals?

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Bringing the Heart into the Present

I know mindfulness can be one of those words that gets thrown around so much it can feel like it hardly means anything. Mindfulness and sex? It’s hard to even imagine what that means- hopefully my conversation with Callye Lawrence can help clear that up. Catch the episode below and be sure to check back here afterwards for some footNOTES!

What’s Sex Got To Do With Mindfulness? by Jeremy Adam Smith for Mindful

How to Use Your Brain to Have Better Sex by Jill Hamilton for Oprah Daily

Mindful Sex by Andy Puddicombe for Headspace

9 Ways Mindfulness Practice Can Improve Your Sex Life by Jason N. Linder for Psychology Today

The role of sexual mindfulness in sexual wellbeing, Relational wellbeing, and self-esteem

Journal of sex & marital therapy, 45(6), 497–509

Porn, huh?

I was once told that there is one sin that always goes alongside porn- masturbation (*shiver*) . Fast forward a couple of degrees, countless conversations with clients, co-hosts and guests on SecX and uh, a fair amount of personal research and turns out there is just so, so much more to porn. Catch my conversation with Laura and Sinn below and be sure to check back afterwards for some footNOTES!

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Trans Incarceration

It’s conversations like the one I’m scheduled to have with Nell that make me want to dream of a better future. One where violent gender discrimination and institutionalized invisibility don’t further complicate the lives of the already incredibly vulnerable trans folx in our community. Catch the conversation with Trans Pride Initiative President Nell Gaither.

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