Now that you’ve put your lingerie/mouse costume (duh) away for the year roleplay may be the last thing on your mind but there’s more to explore in the wild kingdom of pet-play kink then felt ears and nine-tailed butt plugs. The pet/master dynamic offers us not only a new way to relate to one another but a whole new series of ways to get carpet burn on our knees. Shade Wolf of Pet-Play Pride TX joins Secular Sexuality to discuss pet-play and the phenomenology of pet-space, plus your calls and questions.
Read moreI didn't choose the Fet Life...
Fetlife is to kinksters like the office coffee maker is to the caffeinated- everyone uses it, no one is particularly impressed with it and a small vocal minority have incredibly strong opinions about it’s proper usage and etiquette. John Kopanas’ problem child of a passion project remains the best available platform for pervy people to meet and mingle despite the Myspace interface. Social media coordinator and certified kinkster Tanjil Wright joins Nate and I this week in understanding the etiquette of direct messaging and dungeon mastering at the intersection of social media and kink.
Read moreUnpacking Your Kinks
Maybe every 10th consultation I receive as a therapist is some version of the question- “is it okay that I’m into x?” followed quickly by “how tf am I going to tell my partner/find a partner that’s okay with me being into x.” Having powerful friends often leads to powerful answers so I’m incredibly proud and grateful to be able to flex my little black book and bring in the wisdom of a true rockstar and expert in exactly these questions. Joining me is a business coach quoted in everything from Cosmo to Forbes with a resume to back it up, Amberly Rothfield, phone sex operator and adult industry consultant, has heard it all returns to the show to talk about boundaries, communication and dirty little secrets, not to mention your calls!
Read moreHow To Kink
A week ago the resident Poly Viking Power Bottom of Secular Sexuality walked us through some weird and wild adjectives and the value of finding your kink identity. But now wtf do you do with it? SecX’s Patron Saint of All things Sexual Saint Eve is here to help us explore the restricted section of the library and learn how to research and safely explore an exciting new kink or scary new desire. This week we’re sexy, we’re kinky and all a little geeky as we crack open some ancient wisdom and explore the dark corners of the modern world.
Read moreKnowing the Ropes Preview with Andy BnB of Forbidden Fruit
This week Secular Sexuality is getting back to basics. This year we’ve already covered everything from homeschooling to addiction to late in life coming out to internet outages and sociosexual orientation, whatever that is. Joined by friend of the show and Forbidden Fruit staffer Andy we’re looking to get all tied up in the wonderful world of bondage and to look ahead to some great sex positive and pleasure centered trainings and workshops. It’s a taste of all things kink for vanilla atheists and rope bunnies alike.
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