‘Whore’ has been such a dirty word for such a long time that few of us ever stop to ask why the idea of selling sex seems to be so salacious. In a world where economic freedom and bodily autonomy are doubly denied to women we deem the commerce of coitus as obviously anathema. 4’ 8” #1 legal prostitution heavy weight Alice Little returns to the show to walk Johnny and I through the complexities and legalities of cash for connection.
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Objectification and sexualization is part and parcel of the porn space but the pain of bigotry and the exploitation of trans performers is a vintage problem with modern trappings. This week trans advocate and performer Arden Hart joins clip queen and porn performer proponent Sinn Sage in a conversation with me about appreciation, dehumanization and erotic media.
Read moreWhite Knuckle Heteronormativity
Whether you’re super-straight or ultra fabulous, high fem or hyper macho, a relationship anarchist or a marriage traditionalist I’d like to ask you a question- aren’t you tired? I don’t mean to dismiss anyone’s identity (valid ones anyway) but I have to wonder if there isn’t a little more room for curiosity, flexibility and balance. Join Vi and I as we host Arden of Eden in a conversation on the potential pitfalls of black and white thinking in our self-descriptive adjectives. Catch the episode below live at 7p CT 3/18 and be sure to check back afterwards for some footNOTES!
Find the podcast version here or wherever you podcast.
Find Arden on Twitter @Arden_of_Eden and catch Trans Atlantic on The Line
Previous SecX conversations about these topics:
The 'super straight' campaign taking over TikTok is actually just ugly transphobic trolling by Morgan Sung for Mashable
The Super Straights Are Definitely Not Okay by Michelle Santiago Cortes for Refinery29
What is Toxic Monogamy? By Jae Lin for allgo
7 Questions to Ask Yourself When ‘Toxic Monogamy’ Is Affecting Your Relationship by Erin Bunch for Well+Good
Is Toxic Monogamy Impacting Your Relationship/s? by Svea Wentzler for A Better Life Therapy
Toxic Femininity: Is acting as fragile and frivolous internalized misogyny? by Ritch C. Savin-Williams for Psychology Today
How To Kink
A week ago the resident Poly Viking Power Bottom of Secular Sexuality walked us through some weird and wild adjectives and the value of finding your kink identity. But now wtf do you do with it? SecX’s Patron Saint of All things Sexual Saint Eve is here to help us explore the restricted section of the library and learn how to research and safely explore an exciting new kink or scary new desire. This week we’re sexy, we’re kinky and all a little geeky as we crack open some ancient wisdom and explore the dark corners of the modern world.
Read moreSaint Eve of Cammodels
It’s 2020 and while we may not having flying cars or functional healthcare by god do we have an internet of porn. One of the most intriguing offerings of our internet age is the opportunity to hire a sex worker from the comfort of our own computer and yet many people feel shy, suspicious or just selfish interacting with cammers. Enter now Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cammer. Join Vi and I as we take your calls and learn the do’s and don’ts of responsible cam consumption.
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