Sex can be scary. We want it, sure, but we also tend to worry about how much we want it. So much so that it almost feels like it controls us, and sometimes, I think we wish that it would. If we we’re addicted to porn, we wouldn’t be able to say no to it.
Read morePet-Play Pride
Now that you’ve put your lingerie/mouse costume (duh) away for the year roleplay may be the last thing on your mind but there’s more to explore in the wild kingdom of pet-play kink then felt ears and nine-tailed butt plugs. The pet/master dynamic offers us not only a new way to relate to one another but a whole new series of ways to get carpet burn on our knees. Shade Wolf of Pet-Play Pride TX joins Secular Sexuality to discuss pet-play and the phenomenology of pet-space, plus your calls and questions.
Read morePolygamy vs Polyamory
When I was on dating apps as a poly man nothing used to get under my skin more then the constant conflation of polyamory and polygamy, particularly the historical plural marriage of mormonism. How different are these things, really, and why do those differences matter? Dan Beecher of Thank God I’m Atheist joins SecX to talk through his experiences growing up in and and around the modern mormon thinking of monogamy as well as his own journey in to the world of more then two. Catch the episode below and be sure to check back afterwards for some footNOTES!
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex - and How to Get It by Marty Klein
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Janet Hardy & Dossie Easton
The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families by Elisabeth Sheff
Explaining polygamy and its history in the Mormon Church by Joanna Brooks for The Conversation
What Is the Difference Between Polyamory and Polygamy? by Ellsabeth Sheff for Psychology Today
Here’s How Polyamory, Polygamy, and Polyandry Differ — and What to Expect by Sian Ferguson for Healthline
How Mormon Polygamy In The 19th Century Fueled Women's Activism by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich with Terry Gross for Fresh Air
The polygamous town facing genetic disaster by Zaria Gorvett for BBC
Pornstar 101
Well if the past week has taught us anything, it’s that Levar Burton belongs on the Jeopardy! stage. If it’s taught us two things it’s definitely that wow are people shitty about sex-work. I’m excited to welcome Sinn Sage back to SecX to talk about Only Fans, sex work and the myths and mysteries of life in porn.
Read moreOn Compersion
The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships
Compersion: A Polyamorous Principle That Can Strengthen Any Relationship by Gracie X for HuffPo
Compersion: What Monogamists Can Learn From the Poly Community by Molly Frances for Polyamory Today
Compersion Is The Word You’ve Been Missing Your Whole Life by Melanie Ginsburg for A Million Happy Thoughts
How Essential Polyamory Tools Can Apply to Monogamous Life by J. Fergus for The Manual
Cultivating Compersion: Lessons from Buddhist Practice
How to Do Metta by Jack Kornfield for Lion’s Roar
Compersion is a Choice from Curious Fox
COMPERSION: A RADICAL LOVE PHENOMENON research collection conducted by Dr. Marie Thouin
Previous episodes for your consideration-
Sex Nerves
With so many nerve endings involved it’s not hard to understanding why sex can make us nervous. Whether it’s the performance, the person or the p-rivate parts there’s plenty to get ourselves worked up over. This week Melissa Hargrave joins P*ck and I in understanding the anxiety of couples and copulation plus your calls!
Read moreA Little-Adult Conversation About Love
Sex is great and all but have you ever been wrapped up in a blankie like a burrito while watching cartoons and eating chicken nuggies? What about having your head scratched while you fixate on a squirrel through a window? If not be sure to watch this week’s episode of SecX where we work to get out of bed and into the headspace of puppys and littles through caregiver-little relationships.
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